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August 4, 2021 - Liberate Yourself: Decluttering Your Emotional Space!

With the weather we've been having, I've been spending a little more time at home either out in my garden or doing that spring cleaning that I didn't get to a few months back. This week I cleaned out some closets, one of those chores you really have to be in the mood for. But once it's done, it's such a satisfying feeling to be rid of that old, unwanted, and/or forgotten "stuff" and to gain more space in the process. It's extremely liberating!

And that got me thinking that it's not just physical and tangible possessions that "clutter" our lives! It's also the emotional baggage we carry around with us. It could be a regret over a past relationship, or a loss or disappointment of some kind, or feelings of insecurity, or fear of failure. This type of emotional "clutter" can weigh us down and keep us from growing.

I started thinking about decluttering our emotional space! Why not have a "decluttering" exercise for those old emotions and feelings that we continue to hold on to. I'm a big believer in the power of intention, so here's what I came up with. Find a quiet moment and sit down with a pen and paper. Write down all of your emotional clutter that you want to be free of. Next spend a little time thinking about a symbol or image that represents that old feeling and draw it on the paper. Or you can even paste a picture from a magazine of something that represents your feeling. Then have your own ceremony to dispose of your paper now ladened with your emotional clutter. You could bury the paper, tear it into little pieces, take it to a dump, put it in a shredder, or burn it in a safe place.

However you decide to dispose of the paper, before you do, say aloud the following: "I am ready to let go of my feelings about..." and then finish the sentence with your own words. After the paper is gone, you can say "Good riddance" or "Good-bye" or "Now I am now free!" Hopefully you will feel some sense of liberty or lightness. If you find later that you are still carrying unwanted feelings, and sometimes they can be very powerful, you can repeat the little ritual.

By the way, apparently one way of releasing unwanted feelings or emotions is to replace them with new hopes or goals. Write them down on a piece of paper along with a picture or symbol of them, and place the paper in a place you'll see it regularly. Seeing it should make you feel happy and over time you'll begin to notice a liberating feeling of freedom from those things that were weighing on you.