Bethea's Blog

December 16, 2020 - How to Spend This Atypical Holiday!

This is undoubtedly the strangest holiday season I've ever experienced in my lifetime, and I know I'm not alone in those feelings. The typical sense of merriment and excitement at seeing festive decorations and people out and about, shopping, celebrating, and getting together with friends and relatives have been put aside for the most part this year or at least re-evaluated. Where I live, holiday markets are closed. Less people are out and about, and more are staying at home and opting for online shopping.

And then there are those who are ill, some very seriously, and those who are taking care of the sickly. There are also those who have lost loved ones and those who are also living in precious situations and/or under serious financial stress. This year, those situations are more prevalent than usual. When we consider the gravity of what some people are dealing with, it's challenging to even think about holiday cheer.

Obviously, we are experiencing this pandemic and its effects very differently and there is no one solution for all. Clients have contacted me for help in managing their personal struggles and feelings of sadness, grief, anger and fear right now. I encourage everyone to give themselves space to think about what feels safe and appropriate for them and their loved ones. Now more than ever, it's essential that we be true and honest to ourselves and those around us. Do we need space, quiet time, sleep, company, being out in nature, exercise, etc.?

This year, we need to ask ourselves how can we create the kind of holiday that feels right for us now. There are ways to celebrate. We can cook, bake, make candy, craft and decorate our homes. We can offer our help to those less fortunate or those in need. We can get together in small safe groups/pods, on the inside or outside. We can stay in contact with friends and family through the various video-conferencing options. If we allow ourselves to be creative, we can find ways to connect that could turn out to be more special and intimate than is usually the case.

I send wishes to all for a safe and warm holiday that is spent in the way that feels right to each and every one of us. I think the most important aspect of this challenging year we've gone through is that it has highlighted what we have to be grateful for. And that is far more than holiday cheer and merriment!